Staying afloat

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I have always been afraid of deep water, a phobia I have long wished to overcome. But right now, as we make our way from Koh Tao back to the mainland of Thailand on an ill-timed visa run amid high winds and huge waves, my fear has never felt more valid.

Curled up in a ball of nerves, I turn my iPod on and try to let the words of Florence Welch drown out the noise of my overactive imagination, that currently has us floating amongst the wreckage of our night boat, whilst sharks slowly pick us off on by one. I curse myself for not booking a flight straight to Malaysia when Lee and I found some cheap tickets. What use are the extra hundred dollars saved if we are to be eaten alive by a ferocious Great White before we ever get to enjoy the benefit of our frugality?!

I wrap my hands over my head in a bid to shield myself from my fear as our boat continues to lurch precariously from side to side, caught in a tug of war between the pitch black of night and the dark swell of the sea, nine hours away from land.

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Woefully watching the waves before boarding the night boat to the mainland

I awake to the first signs of dawn, and waters as still as a bathtub. Relief and gratitude wash over me, and I can’t wait to be back on solid ground. I’m so relieved I could almost kiss the tarmac as we disembark, but before I can we are bundled into a minibus and on our way to Georgetown, Penang, on an exhausting 72 hour round-trip.

It has been a whole month since we left Goa, and I can barely believe how quickly this next stage of our adventure has gone by. They say that time flies when you’re having fun, but we haven’t really been doing a lot of that lately, so I find the rate at which the days have passed alarming. These four weeks have been the hardest of our journey so far, and have been a real test of our resilience, and more pressingly, our relationship.

Back in India we were in familiar territory. We created a home, a life, and a social network, that though we always knew were temporary, made us happy. Lee had a full-time job as a canyoning guide, and I continued to work as a freelance graphic designer, as well as running this blog. There were cracks beginning to form between us even then (actually, before we ever left England), but we had so many things to keep us busy, and for the majority of the time, apart, that we made it through this period without actually having to resolve any of our issues

Then we got to Thailand, and suddenly it was just us, alone, with all the time in the world to observe our crumbling façade. We discussed breaking up while we were in Bangkok, then decided to get a bucket of Songsam on Khaosan Road instead. We made it to Koh Phangan, but the break up talks continued in spades. We rented a house there for a month, but were just as unhappy with this as we were with each other, and decided to leave after only one week.

Things weren’t looking good. Then, in a moment of pure serendipity, the chance to move  to Koh Tao presented itself, and we decided to give things once last chance, bringing our backpacks and emotional baggage to a picture-perfect bungalow on a hill, overlooking the turquoise waters of the Gulf of Thailand.

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If we can’t make it here, we can’t make it anywhere

It feels like the right place for us to be. A place to tuck ourselves away, amongst the green and pink of bougainvillea, and the sounds of the tropical wilds that pulsate around the house. Life here is simple, stripped back, honest.

As we work on rebuilding our relationship, we have also decided to work on building a business together, in the hopes that we can create a sustainable income as we continue our life of indefinite travel. With my graphic design background and Lee’s website development skills, we hope to grow Further Bound into not just a travel blog, but also a graphic and web design business. We recently built websites for two of my friends, Monica and Kim, and have several more projects lined up already.

Fate even gave us a huge stamp of approval when we met a lovely woman called Amy, a fellow graphic designer and world traveller, who gave us her old MacBook that she no longer needed. It felt like a sign that we were doing the right thing, and her overwhelming generosity was another shift for us, enabling us to really work together, having previously shared one laptop between us. We have set up a little office overlooking the sea. We sit next to each other, drink coffee and talk. I feel things starting to move in the right direction.

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The office

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Hard at work

As we sit here side by side we are becoming a team. We are more relaxed. Lee has even started wearing a hairband to control his newly-long locks, which I just love. Not long ago he never would have done this. We are so far removed from where we used to be.

It really feels as though we’ve weathered the storm, and made it through to calmer waters. Things will never just be plain sailing; life doesn’t work that way, but I know now that we’re made of strong stuff, and there’s enough love in our sails to keep us moving forward.

Even the deepest waters seem less scary now.

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Kim April 19, 2013 at 16:54

A beautiful post Hannah, and I’m so glad that you and Lee have weathered the storm. I’ve always said that traveling really shines a light on a relationships weakest points and that even the strongest hard moments (I should know!). I think having a shared goal to work towards is so important. Onward!
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Hannah April 20, 2013 at 01:34

Thanks Kim. I’s been a rough time, but I’m hopeful for the future. It has been such an emotional time since we left Goa, part of which was simply down to leaving a place I love so much, but I’m finding my stride now, both as a traveller, and as a better partner :)

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Charlie April 19, 2013 at 16:57

Very happy to read you’ve weathered the storm together. When you dream of travelling as a couple you only really think of the fun times to come and the many experiences that will bring you closer together. But the stress of uprooting your lives and adjusting your relationship to your new outlooks on life must be hard at times.

I’m sure I’m going to go through similar harder times when my boyfriend and I finally hit the road. Relationships come before travel tho. Sounds like you’ve made a great decision to slow down and focus on the most important things for a while. And Koh Tao looks like the perfect place to slow down in!
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Hannah April 20, 2013 at 01:51

I think most travelling couples experience difficulties at some stage, though not necessarily to quite the degree that we have! That is why I wanted to share our story though, to show that this lifestyle isn’t easy, and to hopefully help other people in similar situations. Just make sure you sort out any issues you may have before you leave, and give yourselves the best possible starting point. Then make a concerted effort to talk to each other all the time. Communication will be the wind in your sails :)

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Kirsten April 19, 2013 at 17:05

What a heartfelt story. It’s such a privilege to be able to share your heart and soul with you as you go on this life journey alone AND with Lee. I admire your ability and desire to open your heart to the world. What a gift. Enjoy this phase of the journey and continue to be as present as you are in this moment. Lot’s of love! xxxooo

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Hannah April 20, 2013 at 01:53

Thank you Kirsten, that really means a lot xxx

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Carmel April 19, 2013 at 17:05

Even after 8.5 years together, I worry about these things for us, too. There’s little distraction to alleviate tension when you’re on the road together and in situations that make it hard to keep perspective. When we face these uphill battles, I remember that I choose to love my husband, it’s not a feeling or a situation. It’s harder to choose some days than others, but at the end of the day, I’m happy with my decision, and I think he is too. I’m glad you two have chosen each other and to continue to work together.
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Hannah April 20, 2013 at 01:56

“I remember that I choose to love my husband, it’s not a feeling or a situation.” Carmel, that was so beautifully put, and so wise. It is a choice, and I too have to keep reminding myself of this. Because in the end, no matter how bad things have been between us, I choose to love Lee, and I’m happy with my decision too.

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Hannah @ Getting Stamped April 19, 2013 at 17:48

Things sound like they are coming together, and they will. I think the business you are building is a great idea, and will be a huge success. We leave for our RTW 70 days and I am not sure how it will affect our relationship, we have never been together EVERY day for this long! We also don’t know if we are going to work besides our blog. I am sure we will have similar moments. Glad you are finding a peaceful place in Thailand!
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Hannah April 20, 2013 at 01:59

Wow, you leave in 70 days, how exciting! Use this time to iron out any issues you might have as best you can, and give yourselves the best possible start as you adjust to a life on the road. Then remember to talk to each other. All. The. Time. I wish you all the best on your journey together.

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Toni April 19, 2013 at 18:07

Every relationship goes through a time where it’s a struggle and an up hill climb; the couples that stay together are the ones that realise the view will be worth it x
Sending you both lots of positive energy sweetheart x
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Hannah April 20, 2013 at 01:37

Thank you Toni, I really appreciate your positivity and wisdom. Long term relationships really do have to be built around a shared vision for the future, and a belief that you can make it there. I think we have that… we’ll see how things so from here on in.

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Robert Goldie April 19, 2013 at 19:26

Hi Hannah,

I have been interested to follow your journey and am glad to hear you have sorted things out. It is very difficult to be in your partners company 24/7 for such a long time.
You are now in familiar territory to me as I have been to many parts of Thailand and have always enjoyed myself there. I have also visited Koh Tao on several occasions and can sympathise with you about the rough seas. Try it on a high speed Catamaran ! I think everyone was seasick.
You need not have worried there are no Great White Sharks in Thailand , all the sharks have met have been friendly .
Having been Scuba Diving in Thailand countless times I can say it is an amazing experience and well worth trying .
Koh Tao is the perfect place to learn and conquer your fear of deep water. It’s lovely there and the water temp. Is 27 C . all the time. Be brave and give it a go !
Best of luck for the rest of your journey.

Robert

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Hannah April 20, 2013 at 02:08

Thank you Robert, it’s lovely to hear you have been following our journey, and I really appreciate your encouragement to conquer my fear. Even though I know full well there are no Great White’s in Thailand (Lee Googled this for me before I went in the sea here!), my imagination always tells me otherwise. I’m even scared of sharks in swimming pools. I blame watching James Bond movies as a child.

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Patti April 19, 2013 at 19:52

Having a relationship when you are always together is very different from those who live in the world of 9 – 5, because those people separate for 8+ hours every day, they know people you don’t know and they connect with them on a different level. Abi and I own a B&B and when we first took over, it was a challenge in so many ways but one of the biggest challenges was learning to be together 24/7, literally. Plus, we are both Type A personalities and used to managing people in various work situations. We had to quickly learn we couldn’t manage each other, instead we had to allow ourselves to fall into our new roles and work alongside of each other. Doing so has enhanced our travel experiences because we now know how to rely on just each other. It’s a hard lesson to learn, but well-worth the effort. Keep taking one day at a time and talk, talk, talk, to each other.
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Hannah April 20, 2013 at 01:45

You are so right Patti, and making this adjustment has been a challenge, though one I feel hopeful we will be able to master. We are just trying to communicate as much as possible, and be mindful of one another. We are both so emotionally bruised right now, and it will take a while before we feel more secure in our relationship, but every day I feel more certain that we made the right choice.

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budget jan April 20, 2013 at 01:41

Good on you and Lee for having another go at sorting out your relationship. It takes guts to do that. Wishing you both the best of luck and happiness. I like the hairband – a shift in attitude, a relaxing, can make all the difference. :)
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Hannah April 20, 2013 at 02:02

Thank you so much Jan. Who knew the difference a hairband could make?! He looks so good in it that it’s almost impossible to fall out with him anymore :)

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Maddie April 20, 2013 at 04:31

Thanks for being so honest Hannah. This was a wonderfully written post and I’m so glad you guys have managed to weather the storm. I was really shocked at some of the things I didn’t know about Paul despite being together for 8 years. 24 hours a day together is not something that happens in the ‘real world’, it can take a lot of getting used to and be very revealing. I think the extremes are the hardest part, you share the absolute best and worst experiences with someone which can be so challenging and a complete contrast to coasting along in a 9-5.

So glad to hear things are looking up and you’ve found some peace on Koh Tao :-)
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Hannah April 20, 2013 at 05:50

It really is the highest of highs, and the lowest of lows, isn’t it?! But I am grateful to have had the opportunity to not only learn more about Lee, but also myself. I have seen the very worst of my personality and character traits, and spent a lot of time trying to understand and resolve my own issues. Ultimately, whether Lee and I last or not, I am learning to love myself more every day, which can only lead to better things for both of us.

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Steph (@ 20 Years Hence) April 20, 2013 at 07:37

Thank you for always being so candid and open on this blog! Your stories are so inspiring, even when they are shedding light on life’s rougher moments. I have to wonder about those couples that travel long-term and don’t seem to have any scraps along the way. Traveling mean constantly uprooting your life and throwing yourself into the unknown, and although it can be exhilarating, it can also be stressful, frustrating, and scary too. Plus, most of us don’t spend 24/7 with our partners prior to these kind of trips! Prior to this trip, Tony & I had a rock solid relationship and hardly ever fought, but we’ve had some major blowups since being on the road. Sometimes I am shocked at how disruptive travel has been to our relationship, and we’ve even considered going home at times, but in the end, just as you & Lee have, we weathered the storm and came out stronger on the other side. I’m glad to hear that despite the rough water, the sea ahead looks smooth!
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Hannah April 21, 2013 at 06:24

I really appreciate your open and honest comment Steph, and think it’s important to show the other side of this lifestyle. Just because we’re in paradise, doesn’t mean our lives are perfect, and it’s comforting to share our stories, good and bad. Thank you for sharing yours :)

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Jonathan Welford April 22, 2013 at 08:21

Hannah

Travelling with a partner or lover can create issues, being together 24/7 really puts things in a relationship pressure cooker. Sometimes they turn the most tough meat into the most succulent meal, other times it turns it to an unpleasant fatty tasteless soup that you just want to flush.

It’s important to have your own space and own projects as well as shared goals and projects. We spent nearly two glorious months in Thailand and so want to go back, it looks blissful from your photos and I just want to book a flight and get out there. V V Jealous.

Keep up the writing, what you have experienced over the last few weeks will transform into a marvellous moving piece of writing, harness these emotions and use your natural writing skill to compose it into something amazing. The longer you leave it the less feeling and reduced impact it will have.

I look forward to reading your next post.

Jonathan
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Hannah April 24, 2013 at 08:58

I love your analogy of the fatty, tasteless soup Jonathan, that made me laugh! I’m hopeful that having a mutual goal beyond travel will help ground us in our relationship; it’s so nice working together and encouraging each other in this way. And I am taking your advice with my next piece…

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Torre – Fearful Adventurer April 22, 2013 at 08:58

If you only knew just how many brutal arguments we’ve had in that bungalow…
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Jonathan Welford April 22, 2013 at 09:07

When we went travelling it worked really well and not a single argument happened, however we both had projects on the go and gave each other space. However in this case when you think about before they went travelling all they were both doing was working 7 days a week to save money, so didn’t really spend huge amounts of time together, so a certain amount of friction was bound to happen. What caused your arguments?
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Hannah April 23, 2013 at 09:02

Thanks Torre, it’s good to know we’re not the only ones!

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Rob April 22, 2013 at 18:55

Hey Hannah, I love the honesty of your posts. I am really pleased to hear you have weathered the storm. I think most people think travelling is endless fun and joy, but it can be incredibly intense. Having travelled as a couple I can completely empathise with the stresses it can bring. But I think once you have worked through the tough times it only makes your relationship stronger. Good luck to you both…

Looking forward to hearing all your adventures in the future!
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Hannah April 24, 2013 at 08:03

Thank you so much Rob, I really appreciate your kind words :)

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Jeremy April 24, 2013 at 00:17

You know this notion of traveling as a couple excites me and intimidates me. I can see where the highs could fall into place, but I think what’s interesting is getting to know that person by your side on a personal level under unfamiliar situations.

As always I’m such a fan of the person you’ve been, have become, and continue to grow into. Sending you both good vibes and less turbulent times ahead.

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Hannah April 24, 2013 at 08:01

Thank you Jeremy, I’m so grateful for your continued support. I’ve travelled solo as well as with friends, and of course Lee, and each has its benefits, but for now I’m glad to be sticking at this :)

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Ashlie April 24, 2013 at 10:30

Communication is definitely the key for us. I have to be willing to say whatever I need to say (no matter how ridiculous or petty or crazy it may seem) because I know from experience that withholding it will suck all the life out of our relationship. Thanks for being such an open book!
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Hannah April 24, 2013 at 12:36

Yes, this has to be the way forward for us as well. I am such an ostrich by nature though, and at the first sign of trouble in any area of my life my natural instinct is always to just ignore things and hope they will go away. I am grateful for the chance to accept this in myself and learn to grow.

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Stephen S April 24, 2013 at 17:08

Honestly I couldn’t imagine how hard it would be to travel with a partner. I’ve traveled with my brother before, and there were times where we almost killed each other and we are very close. I love your honesty Hannah and I’m glad you are moving forward, and things are looking better. Always keep your chin up so you can see what life is trying to teach you :)
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Hannah April 25, 2013 at 14:52

Yes, travelling with anyone 24/7 is tough, but as a couple I think it is all too tempting to really take your shit out on each other. We’re striving to be better communicators, but I’m sure it will be a steep learning curve!

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Nicole Beck April 24, 2013 at 22:12

What great writing. I hope this was a therapeutic post to write. Travel is trying and not just all fun and games as it is often considered. Best of luck to both of you. Sounds like you have perspective and rationality in your favor.

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Hannah April 25, 2013 at 14:15

Thank you so much Nicole, I really appreciate that. I find my whole blog in general is like a catharsis for me; I love sharing my life, and doing so can really help iron out the kinks!

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Bethaney - Flashpacker Family April 25, 2013 at 08:34

This is a beautifully written post Hannah. Travelling can really put stress on a relationship. If you’re not liking a place or things aren’t going well it can make things all seem so much worse. Sometimes a change of pace or scenery is needed and sounds like you found that in Koh Tao.
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Hannah April 25, 2013 at 15:04

Thank you so much Bethaney. And you are so right, the additional stress of finding the right place to stay, or even deciding what to eat for dinner can so easily turn into a heated argument. I’m naturally outspoken, so that doesn’t help, but life here on Koh Tao is affording us some much needed breathing room :)

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Paul Farrugia April 25, 2013 at 11:03

I loved this post Hannah! It was so warm and honest.
Keep at it, you are both on the right path.

Take care,
Paul
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Hannah April 25, 2013 at 14:19

Thank you so much Paul. I really appreciate that :)

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Dariece - Goats On The Road April 25, 2013 at 14:11

As usual, pure, honest and touching! Great post. I can totally relate to the fear of being on a boat in the middle of the sea, rocking back and forth! I absolutely hate night boats, they’re my worst nightmare.

Travelling as a couple and finding your groove together can sometimes take time, but it seems like the two of you will work things out. There’s nothing more intimate than travelling together as a couple, in my opinion. You see the good, the bad, the ugly and everything in between. There’s nowhere to run, you have to face it all…my advice? Talk and communicate non stop.

Cheers!
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Hannah April 25, 2013 at 15:01

Thank you Dariece, that really means a lot. We’ve been using each other as a dumping ground for all our individual, as well as shared crap, so trying to turn things around is taking constant awareness and communication, but we’re getting there :)

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Montecristo Travels (Sonja) April 26, 2013 at 19:42

THAT is fantastic advice!!

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Jessica Wray April 26, 2013 at 09:05

In the last couple weeks I’ve been comparing my relationship to all the posts I’ve seen about “finding the perfect travel partner” or articles about how great everything can be traveling as a couple, etc. My boyfriend and I have been on the road for over 2 months now, and though it has been great, comparing my relationship with other people’s has really messed with my mind. I took a break from the internet and blogging for a week or so and your post was the first I saw when I came back online. Thank you for helping me put things back into perspective- that things aren’t always easy and that’s okay. It was also great to read the comments and how being together 24/7 really is a crazy dynamic that other couples struggle with too!
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Hannah April 27, 2013 at 02:28

Jessica, reading your comment makes sharing our difficulties so worthwhile. I try so hard on my blog to be real; to be wholeheartedly myself, and it makes me so happy to think you were able to draw some comfort in this. It is important to remember that perfection is a dangerous illusion; no one has a perfect relationship all the time, and some have more problems than others, but in sharing our stories we can help create a deeper connection, both in our relationships and beyond.

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Montecristo Travels (Sonja) April 26, 2013 at 19:40

I wonder how long term travel will impact our relationship too. I like to think that all the travel (not long term) we have done together has given us a good idea of how we work as a team… and we are very very much a team. On a day to day basis Stefan and I are very much intertwined in all we do. We spend hours discussing out next plans. We have common goals and objectives. He’s also 50 … to my “almost” 40 … and I am hopeful that his life experience will be the asset I know it to be. We have no issues at all at home, have never had any on short term trips … so I am at ease. Yet…I am very much aware that long term travel brings with it – a very unique set of challenges. I happy to read that you both worked it out … good for you two!! And your new adventure sounds very exciting! Onward as Kim said so nicely above.

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Hannah April 27, 2013 at 02:45

Lee and I had travelled quite a bit together on short holidays, and I had always held the belief that we would be great travel partners – heck, that’s even how we met and fell in love. But long-term travel places so many other stresses on you. Even little things like the heat and dirt can make you irritable, and with no one else around, it’s your partner who takes the full brunt of it! From my own experience, and speaking with other travellers we have met on the road, everyone experiences ups and downs, but as long as you can accept them as part of the overall adventure, I’m sure you’ll weather any storms that may come your way. I wish you all the best on your travels :)

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Montecristo Travels (Sonja) April 29, 2013 at 17:26

Thank you Hannah!
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Sally April 30, 2013 at 06:03

I love your writing style and honesty with your blog posts, travel always has ups and downs but when you get through the downs I’m sure it’ll make the up’s feel much more worthwhile :)
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Hannah Loaring May 6, 2013 at 02:14

Thank you so much Sally, I really appreciate that :)

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Turner May 1, 2013 at 20:58

Perfect title, but by its own definition, impermanent.
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Hannah Loaring May 6, 2013 at 02:15

Very true!

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Anna B May 5, 2013 at 09:56

Hi Hannah, Koh Tao was my favourite place in Thailand too. Unfortunately we went there last and only had a short time before we came home but it was my favourite part of Thailand and if I went back I would just go there! I was happy to find it, but sad that it was all a bit too late! So, make the most of it if you guys are feeling happy too and it’s nice that I can think of you there and know that things are going well. I miss you so much and think about you all the time! Take it easy dudette and enjoy that gorgeous turquoise sea! I loved snorkeling there and if you go in with a banana skin it’s quite an experience!! Lots of love xxxx
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Hannah Loaring May 6, 2013 at 02:18

Thanks honey, I miss you too!!! We’re enjoying it here, but are also looking forward to moving on to new adventures. We’re heading to Cambodia next and I can’t wait. I think of you all the time and wish you could join us xxx

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TammyOnTheMove May 8, 2013 at 08:47

If you are in Phnom Penh let me know. I can give you a few tips and perhaps we could even meat for a drink or two. :-)
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Hannah Loaring May 11, 2013 at 01:59

We will definitely be in Phnom Penh at some point Tammy, and I would love to meet up! I’ll drop you an email when we are a little clearer of our plans :)

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TammyOnTheMove May 8, 2013 at 08:46

What a beautiful post Hannah! I am glad you could sort out your differences. When you are with somebody 24/7 in a different country that can really take the toll on a relationship. I speak from experience. But I think it is normal as well. People get scared when change happens and you just have to try and overcome these fears and work together on them just like you did.
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Hannah Loaring May 11, 2013 at 02:02

Thank you Tammy. We certainly expected to face these kinds of problems somewhere along the way, though I was surprised out how instantly the cracks started to show – though really they were there before we even left. At least now we have been able to clear out the crap and continue our journey with a lot less baggage. It was extremely difficult when we were in the thick of it, but now that we seem to have emerged safely on the other side things are going well :)

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Carl Mandabach May 13, 2013 at 17:06

I enjoyed your story. My wife did not have the time off, so I traveled alone to Sri Lanka and thailand for 5 weeks. I forgot what it was like to travel alone..this can be intense as traveling as a couple. My wife and I had traveled together in Cambodia, Thailand and we had a great time.
Koh Tao was a shock for me because I had not been there since 1999. I had a great time,but hurt my elbow in a motor cycle accident a month ago and the hole in my arm is only now finally healing up. Koh Tao is still really great, though it is tempting to look back..
Now, my wife and I have to move out of a rental home in Sacrament and this is really stressful. Thank you for your blog to take me out of my present situation.

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Hannah Loaring May 22, 2013 at 04:15

Thanks for reading Carl, I’m glad you enjoyed the post and that I was able to offer you a bit of escapism for a few minutes. I hope your arm heals soon :)

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Colleen Brynn August 16, 2013 at 18:36

“A place to tuck ourselves away, amongst the green and pink of bougainvillea, and the sounds of the tropical wilds that pulsate around the house. Life here is simple, stripped back, honest.”
That was my very favourite line of this post.
As so many people before me have said, thank you for your honesty.
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Hannah August 17, 2013 at 09:01

Thank you so much Colleen, I’m so glad that line stood out to you. It was a difficult time in a beautiful place – I wanted to show that even paradise can’t solve your problems – they travel with you no matter where you go.

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Molly En Route October 25, 2013 at 21:41

Welcome back! I came across your blog while starting mine months ago and have been inspired by your design and words. I am now going through relationship struggles hoping we come out of it together. Thank you for this post, it always helps to know others are or were going through similar things.
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Ana February 5, 2014 at 18:15

Hi Hannah! I’m a Spanish child psychologist who will take a 2 sabatical years soon, to travel abroad with my partner. Yesterday I found out Torre’s blog and I can’t stop reading it! That’s how I have discovered yours. Thanks both for your emotional and real stories, that inspired us to follow our dreams… If I finally make mines true, I would like to go to Koh Tao for some time, and the “dream bungalow” seems perfect, who could I find about it? It continue to be as cheap as when Torre rented it? Thanks for sharing, a big hug from Spain!

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Hannah February 6, 2014 at 13:41

Hi Ana, I’m so glad you have been enjoying Torre’s wonderful blog, and my own. We were so lucky to be able to stay in Torre’s beautiful little bungalow, and would definitely recommend seeking something similar, though I’m afraid I wouldn’t know where to begin looking, as we were fortunate enough to stay there while Torre was away on her book tour, so didn’t explore any other options. Koh Tao is full of great accommodation choices though, so I’m sure if you turn up and ask around you will find something, especially around the Sairee Beach area, which is where we were based. I wish you all the best on your adventure!

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